For a long time, I believed I started life behind. I believed that losing my mother early meant I was missing something essential. I believed that having to learn womanhood, emotional regulation, and identity without guidance was a disadvantage I would always be trying to compensate for. Now I understand that what felt like absence… Continue reading My Disadvantages Are My Advantage
Tag: personal-growth
When You Stop Resisting, Everything Flows
There is a quiet moment that happens right before life begins to shift. It does not arrive with noise or spectacle. It arrives as a soft internal release, when you finally stop gripping tightly to what you believe should happen and allow what is meant to happen to unfold. Resistance often feels productive at first.… Continue reading When You Stop Resisting, Everything Flows
The Art of Pivoting: How to Trust Yourself and Your Journey
Life doesn’t come with a roadmap. No matter how many plans you make, how many “shoulds” you follow, or how many calendars you color-code, things will shift. And when they do, pivoting isn’t just an option, it’s a survival skill. Pivoting isn’t failure. It’s awareness, flexibility and realizing that the path you thought was right… Continue reading The Art of Pivoting: How to Trust Yourself and Your Journey
They Teach Us That Blood Is Thicker Than Water (But They Never Finish The Sentence)
They teach us that blood is thicker than water. They say it like a rule. Like a warning. Like a leash. But they never tell you the full saying: “The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.” Meaning the bonds you choose can be stronger than the ones you inherit.… Continue reading They Teach Us That Blood Is Thicker Than Water (But They Never Finish The Sentence)
A Few Things I Refuse to Bring Into The New Year
This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about finally stopping what never fit. As the year turns, I’m not carrying everything forward just because I survived it. Some habits kept me afloat once, but now they keep me small. So before I set intentions, I’m setting boundaries, with myself first. Bare minimum actions. I’ve learned… Continue reading A Few Things I Refuse to Bring Into The New Year
Allowing Yourself to Feel
For a long time, feeling didn’t feel safe. So I learned how to move past things quickly. How to stay productive. How to keep going even when something inside me needed attention. Feeling was treated like an inconvenience, something to manage, minimize, or outgrow. Especially the heavier emotions. Grief. Anger. Loneliness. The kind of feelings… Continue reading Allowing Yourself to Feel
Stop Trying to Convince Others of Your Worth
When you grow up without someone consistently affirming you, you learn early how to prove yourself. You learn how to be impressive. Helpful. Easy to love. You learn how to earn space instead of assuming you’re allowed to take it. I didn’t realize for a long time that I was doing this everywhere—at work, in… Continue reading Stop Trying to Convince Others of Your Worth
Crawled Out of a Dark Space That Could Have Easily Taken Me Alive
There was a time when I didn’t realize how close I was to disappearing while still breathing. On the outside, life kept moving. Days passed. Responsibilities stacked. I showed up where I had to. But internally, something had gone quiet. Heavy. Directionless. I was surviving, not living and even that felt like work. I didn’t… Continue reading Crawled Out of a Dark Space That Could Have Easily Taken Me Alive
Back to Basics
Some seasons of life don’t ask you to reinvent yourself — they ask you to return to yourself. And lately, that’s exactly where I’ve found myself landing: right back at the beginning, right back at the foundation, right back at the simple truths I somehow drifted away from without noticing. Most of the time, we’re… Continue reading Back to Basics
I Lost my way trying to become something I’m not
Somewhere along the journey, I started drifting. I didn’t notice it at first—these things rarely happen in a loud, obvious way. It’s subtle. Quiet. A small compromise here, a tiny adjustment there, a little dimming of your own light just to fit into spaces that were never meant for you. And before you know it,… Continue reading I Lost my way trying to become something I’m not