I kept trying to make a maybe feel like home. I gave it a name.I gave it meaning.I gave it time. I took the smallest moments and held them up to the light, trying to figure out if they meant something more. I replayed conversations. I noticed changes. I searched for signs. Maybe this meant… Continue reading When Hope Makes a Fool of You
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In the Wrong Spaces, Your Dreams Will Be Called Unrealistic
Lately, I’ve been thinking about how easy it is to convince yourself that you’re asking for too much. Not because you actually are, but because you’ve spent enough time around people who make your dreams sound impossible. I’ve done this to myself more times than I’d like to admit. I’ll get excited about an idea,… Continue reading In the Wrong Spaces, Your Dreams Will Be Called Unrealistic
Getting Unstuck
There comes a quiet, uncomfortable moment when it’s no longer possible to blame circumstance, timing, or other people for staying in the same place. Not because those things didn’t matter—but because they are no longer the deciding factor. Being stuck often doesn’t look like chaos. It looks like familiarity. It looks like staying in environments… Continue reading Getting Unstuck
Act
Ideas do not visit us by accident. Sometimes they arrive quietly, like a whisper that slips into your thoughts while you are washing dishes, walking down the street, or lying awake at night. Other times they come with urgency, like a sudden knowing that something needs to be done, something needs to begin. And in… Continue reading Act
You Can’t Look a Gift Horse in the Mouth
There is an old saying that people repeat as if it were simple wisdom, something meant to keep us humble and grateful: you can’t look a gift horse in the mouth. It teaches you not to question what you’ve been given, not to inspect it too closely, not to ask whether the gift was really… Continue reading You Can’t Look a Gift Horse in the Mouth
Who I Could Have Been If I Was Loved Correctly
Sometimes I think about who I could have been if I had been loved correctly. If the love around me had been consistent. If it had been attentive. If it had known how to hold me without confusing me. I wonder what parts of me would have developed sooner. I wonder if I would have… Continue reading Who I Could Have Been If I Was Loved Correctly
Life Hack: The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It
There is a quiet belief many of us carry that somewhere else must be better than here. We convince ourselves that another job, another relationship, another city, or even another version of ourselves would finally make everything feel lighter and more aligned. We scroll through other people’s lives and assume their grass is greener simply… Continue reading Life Hack: The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It
My Disadvantages Are My Advantage
For a long time, I believed I started life behind. I believed that losing my mother early meant I was missing something essential. I believed that having to learn womanhood, emotional regulation, and identity without guidance was a disadvantage I would always be trying to compensate for. Now I understand that what felt like absence… Continue reading My Disadvantages Are My Advantage
They Teach Us That Blood Is Thicker Than Water (But They Never Finish The Sentence)
They teach us that blood is thicker than water. They say it like a rule. Like a warning. Like a leash. But they never tell you the full saying: “The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.” Meaning the bonds you choose can be stronger than the ones you inherit.… Continue reading They Teach Us That Blood Is Thicker Than Water (But They Never Finish The Sentence)
A Few Things I Refuse to Bring Into The New Year
This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about finally stopping what never fit. As the year turns, I’m not carrying everything forward just because I survived it. Some habits kept me afloat once, but now they keep me small. So before I set intentions, I’m setting boundaries, with myself first. Bare minimum actions. I’ve learned… Continue reading A Few Things I Refuse to Bring Into The New Year