Sometimes I think about who I could have been if I had been loved correctly. If the love around me had been consistent. If it had been attentive. If it had known how to hold me without confusing me. I wonder what parts of me would have developed sooner. I wonder if I would have… Continue reading Who I Could Have Been If I Was Loved Correctly
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Why
Why do I want to force myself into spaces that do not want me or do not acknowledge what I offer? It is a question I have had to sit with honestly. The answer is not simple, but it is familiar. I think I learned early on to earn my place. I learned to adjust,… Continue reading Why
The Fear of Being Alone
I believe what truly hinders people, myself included, is the fear of being alone. Not loneliness exactly, but the deeper fear that if we are by ourselves for too long, we might disappear. We might discover something about ourselves we are not ready to face. We might realize we have been performing connection rather than… Continue reading The Fear of Being Alone
When You Stop Resisting, Everything Flows
There is a quiet moment that happens right before life begins to shift. It does not arrive with noise or spectacle. It arrives as a soft internal release, when you finally stop gripping tightly to what you believe should happen and allow what is meant to happen to unfold. Resistance often feels productive at first.… Continue reading When You Stop Resisting, Everything Flows
Let God Work
I used to think strength meant doing everything alone.Carrying it all. Figuring it out. Suffering quietly. Pushing harder when I was tired. Staying silent when I needed help. But lately I’ve realized something softer and far more powerful: God doesn’t just work in you.He works through the people around you. We spend so much time praying for answers, breakthroughs,… Continue reading Let God Work
They Teach Us That Blood Is Thicker Than Water (But They Never Finish The Sentence)
They teach us that blood is thicker than water. They say it like a rule. Like a warning. Like a leash. But they never tell you the full saying: “The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.” Meaning the bonds you choose can be stronger than the ones you inherit.… Continue reading They Teach Us That Blood Is Thicker Than Water (But They Never Finish The Sentence)
My First Heartbreak: The Family That Should Have Been
People talk about heartbreak like it’s something that happens in your teenage years, wrapped in first loves and high school dances. But mine came long before that. My first heartbreak wasn’t about a boy—it was about family. I grew up wanting what seemed so simple: siblings who felt like built-in best friends. I used to… Continue reading My First Heartbreak: The Family That Should Have Been
The Late Bloomer
I’ve come to understand something about myself. I’m a late bloomer. And I’m learning to make space for that truth, to honor it instead of hiding it. Sometimes I look around and see people moving forward in ways I once thought impossible. Colleagues graduating faster. Friends falling in love, starting families. Siblings building lives that… Continue reading The Late Bloomer
Standing on the Shoulders of Giants
Everything I imagine, everything I create, isn’t just mine.It comes from the women who came before me. Those who looked like me, felt like me, and dreamed even when the world didn’t make space for their dreams.Their hopes live in me. Creativity runs through my blood.Both of my parents were artists in their own way.A… Continue reading Standing on the Shoulders of Giants
Unwritten by Her, Authored by Me
Losing my mother gave me something I didn’t recognize at first—freedom.It came wrapped in grief, confusion, and years of aching silence. But hidden beneath all of that was an unexpected truth: I now had the space to imagine a life entirely of my own making. There were no expectations to live up to, no map… Continue reading Unwritten by Her, Authored by Me