Sometimes I think about who I could have been if I had been loved correctly. If the love around me had been consistent. If it had been attentive. If it had known how to hold me without confusing me. I wonder what parts of me would have developed sooner. I wonder if I would have… Continue reading Who I Could Have Been If I Was Loved Correctly
Tag: resilience
Why
Why do I want to force myself into spaces that do not want me or do not acknowledge what I offer? It is a question I have had to sit with honestly. The answer is not simple, but it is familiar. I think I learned early on to earn my place. I learned to adjust,… Continue reading Why
Seeing Past the Grief
Grief is loud in the beginning. It does not enter quietly or politely. It rearranges your entire life without asking for permission, and it refuses to leave when you beg it to. When you lose your mother at a young age, grief does not feel like something you experience. It feels like something that raises… Continue reading Seeing Past the Grief
God Won’t Take Away and Not Replace With Better
There is a particular kind of heartbreak that comes when something is removed from your life without your permission. It might be a relationship you thought would last, an opportunity you worked hard for, a friendship you trusted, or even a version of yourself that felt secure and familiar. In those moments, it can feel… Continue reading God Won’t Take Away and Not Replace With Better
Life Hack: The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It
There is a quiet belief many of us carry that somewhere else must be better than here. We convince ourselves that another job, another relationship, another city, or even another version of ourselves would finally make everything feel lighter and more aligned. We scroll through other people’s lives and assume their grass is greener simply… Continue reading Life Hack: The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It
You Are the Creator of Your Own Reality
This isn’t about pretending life is easy or convincing yourself that everything happens for a reason, because some things happened without your consent and changed you in ways no positive thinking could ever undo. It’s about recognizing that even when you didn’t get the guidance, the protection, or the softness you deserved, you are still… Continue reading You Are the Creator of Your Own Reality
My Disadvantages Are My Advantage
For a long time, I believed I started life behind. I believed that losing my mother early meant I was missing something essential. I believed that having to learn womanhood, emotional regulation, and identity without guidance was a disadvantage I would always be trying to compensate for. Now I understand that what felt like absence… Continue reading My Disadvantages Are My Advantage
When You Stop Resisting, Everything Flows
There is a quiet moment that happens right before life begins to shift. It does not arrive with noise or spectacle. It arrives as a soft internal release, when you finally stop gripping tightly to what you believe should happen and allow what is meant to happen to unfold. Resistance often feels productive at first.… Continue reading When You Stop Resisting, Everything Flows
They Teach Us That Blood Is Thicker Than Water (But They Never Finish The Sentence)
They teach us that blood is thicker than water. They say it like a rule. Like a warning. Like a leash. But they never tell you the full saying: “The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.” Meaning the bonds you choose can be stronger than the ones you inherit.… Continue reading They Teach Us That Blood Is Thicker Than Water (But They Never Finish The Sentence)
Crawled Out of a Dark Space That Could Have Easily Taken Me Alive
There was a time when I didn’t realize how close I was to disappearing while still breathing. On the outside, life kept moving. Days passed. Responsibilities stacked. I showed up where I had to. But internally, something had gone quiet. Heavy. Directionless. I was surviving, not living and even that felt like work. I didn’t… Continue reading Crawled Out of a Dark Space That Could Have Easily Taken Me Alive