Sometimes I think about who I could have been if I had been loved correctly. If the love around me had been consistent. If it had been attentive. If it had known how to hold me without confusing me. I wonder what parts of me would have developed sooner. I wonder if I would have… Continue reading Who I Could Have Been If I Was Loved Correctly
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Why
Why do I want to force myself into spaces that do not want me or do not acknowledge what I offer? It is a question I have had to sit with honestly. The answer is not simple, but it is familiar. I think I learned early on to earn my place. I learned to adjust,… Continue reading Why
A Few Things I Refuse to Bring Into The New Year
This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about finally stopping what never fit. As the year turns, I’m not carrying everything forward just because I survived it. Some habits kept me afloat once, but now they keep me small. So before I set intentions, I’m setting boundaries, with myself first. Bare minimum actions. I’ve learned… Continue reading A Few Things I Refuse to Bring Into The New Year
The Rebrand: I Already Lost The Plot
2026 was supposed to feel different. Cleaner. More intentional. A clear line between who I was and who I said I was becoming. Somehow, somewhere between the last days of 2025 and today, I lost the plot. I had a plan. A rebrand mapped out. A version of myself I thought I could step into… Continue reading The Rebrand: I Already Lost The Plot
Seeing the Gift in the Curse
Life doesn’t happen to you. It happens through you, around you, and sometimes against you. And how it lands, how it shapes you, how you move forward, depends entirely on the lens you carry inside your own head. ⸻ Turning Grief Into Guidance I lost my mother when I was too young to understand absence.… Continue reading Seeing the Gift in the Curse
What Once Was
There is a quiet music in looking back, in tracing the paths you walked with hesitant steps, the rooms you entered and left behind, the people whose faces linger like echoes in a corridor of your mind. What once was is neither prison nor punishment, it is the soft pulse beneath your ribs, the subtle… Continue reading What Once Was
Stop Trying to Convince Others of Your Worth
When you grow up without someone consistently affirming you, you learn early how to prove yourself. You learn how to be impressive. Helpful. Easy to love. You learn how to earn space instead of assuming you’re allowed to take it. I didn’t realize for a long time that I was doing this everywhere—at work, in… Continue reading Stop Trying to Convince Others of Your Worth
Growing Pains in All Aspects of Life
Growing pains have a way of showing up everywhere stretching you in places you never asked to grow, revealing truths you didn’t know you were ready to face. They don’t politely knock or wait until life feels stable. They arrive uninvited: in the body, in the heart, in the mind, in the identity you’re still… Continue reading Growing Pains in All Aspects of Life
Part One: The Release of What Was Never Yours to Carry
What evoked the writing of this post was me trimming my ends. As a black girl nothing screams put together like long hair, natural or not, despite how raggedy it looks. I had ends that were scraggly and splits that went far up the shaft. I had breakage galore, and shedding amounts I thought only… Continue reading Part One: The Release of What Was Never Yours to Carry
Something That Baffles Me
Something that will always baffle me is this:People who have mothers. Not just in name, but present in every sense of the word. A mother who poured wisdom into them. A mother who showed up. A mother who held their hand, wiped their tears, and gave them the kind of guidance I used to dream… Continue reading Something That Baffles Me