Why do I want to force myself into spaces that do not want me or do not acknowledge what I offer? It is a question I have had to sit with honestly. The answer is not simple, but it is familiar. I think I learned early on to earn my place. I learned to adjust,… Continue reading Why
Category: Life
The Sudden Urge to Start Over
There are days when the feeling arrives without warning, a quiet but persistent tug at the center of my chest, whispering that I could leave. Not dramatically. Not angrily. Just quietly. I imagine a new city with streets that do not recognize my footsteps and buildings that hold no memory of who I used to… Continue reading The Sudden Urge to Start Over
The Fear of Being Alone
I believe what truly hinders people, myself included, is the fear of being alone. Not loneliness exactly, but the deeper fear that if we are by ourselves for too long, we might disappear. We might discover something about ourselves we are not ready to face. We might realize we have been performing connection rather than… Continue reading The Fear of Being Alone
Seeing Past the Grief
Grief is loud in the beginning. It does not enter quietly or politely. It rearranges your entire life without asking for permission, and it refuses to leave when you beg it to. When you lose your mother at a young age, grief does not feel like something you experience. It feels like something that raises… Continue reading Seeing Past the Grief
God Won’t Take Away and Not Replace With Better
There is a particular kind of heartbreak that comes when something is removed from your life without your permission. It might be a relationship you thought would last, an opportunity you worked hard for, a friendship you trusted, or even a version of yourself that felt secure and familiar. In those moments, it can feel… Continue reading God Won’t Take Away and Not Replace With Better
Life Hack: The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It
There is a quiet belief many of us carry that somewhere else must be better than here. We convince ourselves that another job, another relationship, another city, or even another version of ourselves would finally make everything feel lighter and more aligned. We scroll through other people’s lives and assume their grass is greener simply… Continue reading Life Hack: The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It
You Are the Creator of Your Own Reality
This isn’t about pretending life is easy or convincing yourself that everything happens for a reason, because some things happened without your consent and changed you in ways no positive thinking could ever undo. It’s about recognizing that even when you didn’t get the guidance, the protection, or the softness you deserved, you are still… Continue reading You Are the Creator of Your Own Reality
If it’s our job to bring joy, then we’ll bring joy.
If that is the calling placed before us, then we accept it together. We bring joy not because life has been gentle, but because we understand how much it’s needed. We bring happiness—not as denial, but as resistance against despair. We bring peace—not as passivity, but as an active choice to create safety in a… Continue reading If it’s our job to bring joy, then we’ll bring joy.
Grieving Perfection, Choosing Growth
When I look at my parents, I don’t just see two people who raised me — I see perfection shaped by memory, distance, and the quiet way children mythologize their caregivers once they are no longer close enough to witness the mess behind the strength. I guess they set the bar high, or maybe I… Continue reading Grieving Perfection, Choosing Growth
My Disadvantages Are My Advantage
For a long time, I believed I started life behind. I believed that losing my mother early meant I was missing something essential. I believed that having to learn womanhood, emotional regulation, and identity without guidance was a disadvantage I would always be trying to compensate for. Now I understand that what felt like absence… Continue reading My Disadvantages Are My Advantage