“Perfection is a myth. Progress is proof.” We talk ourselves out of beginnings more than we talk ourselves into them. Maybe because starting feels like exposure, like walking onto a stage before you know your lines, or showing up to a test you didn’t study for. You think, I’m not ready. I’ll embarrass myself. I… Continue reading The Only Way to Be Good at Something Is to Do Something
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Part Three: The Mirror of What Could Be
There are moments in healing when the past still calls your name. Not to pull you backward, but to ask if you remember. To ask if you still wonder who you might have been if things had gone differently. I’ve found myself standing in that space often, between what was and what could have been.… Continue reading Part Three: The Mirror of What Could Be
Stop Taking Advice
At some point, you have to stop taking advice from people you don’t want to be like. It sounds simple, but most of us are conditioned to listen to respect every opinion, to assume that someone older, louder, or more experienced must know better. But not everyone speaking into your life is speaking for your… Continue reading Stop Taking Advice
What Was or What Could Be
There’s a quiet ache that comes from standing between two worlds, the one that was and the one that could have been. I’ve lived most of my life in that in-between, tracing the outlines of a story that never fully wrote itself, and rewriting it from memory and imagination both. When you lose your mother… Continue reading What Was or What Could Be
Part Two: The Birth of the Unseen Self
I didn’t know it then, but the moment I let go of what was never mine to carry, everything shifted. For years, I had lugged expectations that weren’t meant for me, the unspoken rules, the imagined futures, the judgments, and the grief that wasn’t entirely mine to hold. I thought strength meant holding on, that… Continue reading Part Two: The Birth of the Unseen Self
Showing Up for Yourself — Even When You’re Tired
“Selfish,” that’s what they call it. But in reality, you’re finally being selfless. ⸻ Why Showing Up for Yourself Matters Showing up for yourself is a way of saying, I matter too. Your feelings matter. Your needs matter. The way you wish to move through this world matters. When you start honoring that, a quiet… Continue reading Showing Up for Yourself — Even When You’re Tired
Part One: The Release of What Was Never Yours to Carry
What evoked the writing of this post was me trimming my ends. As a black girl nothing screams put together like long hair, natural or not, despite how raggedy it looks. I had ends that were scraggly and splits that went far up the shaft. I had breakage galore, and shedding amounts I thought only… Continue reading Part One: The Release of What Was Never Yours to Carry
Putting Yourself First
For a long time, I believed that putting myself first was selfish. I thought it meant neglecting others or turning my back on responsibilities. But I have learned that choosing yourself is not selfish, it is necessary. You cannot pour from an empty cup, and you cannot live fully if you are constantly running on… Continue reading Putting Yourself First
Learning from the past
The past has a way of following us. Sometimes it shows up as regret, sometimes as a memory that still stings, and other times as a lesson we only begin to understand years later. It can feel heavy, but if we look closely, it carries the wisdom we need to move forward. Learning from the… Continue reading Learning from the past
Prioritizing Yourself
Life often pulls us in many directions. Family, work, relationships, and responsibilities all ask for a piece of us, and it is easy to give until there is nothing left. But learning to prioritize yourself is not an act of neglect toward others. It is an act of respect for your own well-being. Prioritizing yourself… Continue reading Prioritizing Yourself