If there is only one thing I’ve learned in my life so far is that happiness is an inside job. It doesn’t matter how hard you work or how much you do to prove your worth to others, you will never be happy trying to make someone else happy. And by someone it can mean anyone such as friends, family, bosses, coworkers and etc. You would not find your worth in making someone else happy, they will always find something that’s not good enough or you’re not doing enough for them. No matter how much you love or care for that person or in the case of work, how well you do your job and more.
To find true happiness you must search within and find out what it is that truly brings you joy. In my case creating, writing and sharing my experiences with others bring me joy. It makes me happy knowing that others would someday read my work and find a connection with me through my life experiences. It brings me joy when I can express how feel with judgement, growing up there was nothing that I can say or do that wasn’t perceived as some sort of threat or going against some kind of awkward rule. With that type of mentality I grew up never truly being happy or at peace with myself, to this day sometimes. It was always well maybe if I acted this way I’ll be accepted and loved, or if I go to college and excel maybe I’ll be respected. That was never the case, here I was doing all these things to make others happy, love and accept me. All the while I’m drowning in my unhappiness with self care and self love thrown out the window.
True happiness begins with you, I challenge you to find something that brings you joy and if time permits spend the day doing it. I promise you it will change your entire outlook on life and your current circumstances.
