At some point in our lives we’ve been bullied, pushed around or straight up manipulated. Sometimes we don’t realize it or we are too afraid to speak up about it. But once you start realizing how the way someone is treating you is a reoccurring pattern you must act.
Now this can be within family, friends or the work place, none of which you should have to face. When dealing with people like this always have integrity and never stoop down to their level.
If this has ever happened to you, remember that it is reflection of them not you. You are not the problem. Part of standing your ground is creating boundaries, bullies hate this. Plus it may cause more of a reaction from them, but that’s ok because you’re not staying where you’re not wanted.
- Family- for most of us we love our families, and will do anything for them. But it is good to have boundaries to prevent the issue of them using you. One could be the boundary of your emotions, some people talk a lot and a lot of nothingness. So create a boundary where you close off you emotion and reaction to everything they do and say and that will turn them away without too much harm being done to the family unit.
- Friends – creating boundaries with friends depends on the type of friendship you have, so customize to each friend. Main thing is peer pressure, a lot of friends will push you to do things you don’t want to do. Always be clear with friends with what you will and will not do to help prevent uncomfortable situations. If they are still pushy or make fun of you for that, they are not your friends.
- Workplace – coworkers, managers, bosses they will test you because they can. And if I’m being totally honest, that type of behavior is extremely toxic. Take it from my experience and move on, don’t stay in that type of environment it will mess with your head.
In closing, remember to lead with integrity, don’t fall short of your glory to stoop down to another persons level.
