From a female perspective, growing up without the guidance of the one person who would teach you majority of the things you must know as a woman is really hard!! or maybe that’s just me.
Backstory, I lost my mom at a young age, before I could even really understand what was happening. I was already used to her not being around as much and being sent off to my cousins house or a family friend. I thought nothing about it because I was loved regardless, by both of my parents and those who helped take of me when my mom couldn’t. Her death didn’t hit me until recently, realizing that I grew up more than half of my life with out her. Graduations, all of my first experiences, everything she could have taught me were missed.
Growing up I never felt like I was missing anything until I got older and realized I lacked the emotional side of my self, it all left when she did. I believe emotion is something that will take you every far in life, it’s something needed to help you understand yourself and help you understand those around you. That emotional bond I believe only a biological mom can give you, if you’re lucky enough to have that bond with another woman figure in your life count yourself blessed.
Having a mother in your life is more than someone telling you what’s right from wrong, but she’s someone who will guide you throughout your life whether it be about make-up, boys or major life decisions. She’s the first person you’ll run to good or bad. She’s someone who’ll be your life long best friend despite your errors, someone who will always protect you. She’s someone you’ll never have to worry about turning their back on you. Some of the qualities I wish I was exposed to growing up.
Sometimes I wonder what life would be like if she was still here, what kind of person would I be. How different would my life be, would my opinions be swayed because of the conversations we had. Sometimes I wish I could have just one day with her. But maybe this was all Gods will because I probably wouldn’t have become the person I am today. Someone who is resilient, funny, the person who works hard for everything they want. Who pushes forward despite everything that is happening around me. Someone who always finds a way.
Life without a mom is definitely doable, you do have to teach yourself a lot. Survival mode will be turned on 24/7, you’ll get annoyed when you see others with their mom, you’ll cry a lot in solitude. But if anything you’ll be stronger than the day before, because you became the shoulder that you needed to cry on and the resource you need to survive.
